There is a good deal of stress in everyone's lives these days and that includes children and teenagers. Children and teenagers come under stress from many sources but especially from warring parents and exams. However, children and teenagers are not as well prepared to cope with stress as adults should be.

There is a good deal of stress in everyone's lives these days and that includes children and teenagers. Children and teenagers come under stress from many sources but especially from warring parents and exams. However, children and teenagers are not as well prepared to cope with stress as adults should be.

The death of a parent and bullying at school are also reasons for stress in children and teenagers. The death of a parent can necessitate counseling, bullying requires adult help, usually from school staff. These four cases of stress in children and teenagers can lead to mental health problems like depression, ADHD and aggression.

Other causes of milder stress, which can however be the straw that broke the camel's back, are as follows.

Moving to a new school, new town or joining a new club, like cub scouts is stressful to a lot of kids. They will not have a lot, if any, friends there and will be uncertain of the local customs, which can be nerve wracking. Being on edge like this is very stressful.

Learning how to cope with deadlines is not easy for a lot of young people. Nor is working alone to conclude a project. Both of these skills are taught through homework and most children have problems with homework. They hate it. This also causes stress to escalate, particularly if the child does not know how to do the homework and there is no one to lend a hand. Maybe the child does not want to ask or perhaps the parents are incapable of helping.

Connected with school, if a parent is too assertive about achieving high grades, it can have stressful effects that are opposite to what was wanted. Parents have to recognize the fine line between encouraging and pushing their children to do well in school.

Low self esteem due to a more intelligent or more praised sibling is also the cause of stress. Parents who have a favourite and make this obvious run a serious risk of hurting their other children. Never ever choose a favourite (my 'number one son' or 'my little princess') and if you can not help yourself, then never let it be seen.

The news can disturb some children, especially gory details like terrorist bombings and natural disasters. These are felt much more intensely of course if they happen locally. Similar to this is if a close family member suffers a terminal illness or even a serious accident like a car collision and the loss of a limb. They may undergo short term stress if they have an illness like mumps or measles or break an arm or a leg too.

Children quickly pick up on problems between their parents and also on financial difficulties in the house. Try to keep these things to yourself and do not quarrel often in front of your children.

You can help in the home by making sure that your children have love and understanding and by not being too demanding. They are only kids, but they often have to put up with adult sized stress as well. Try to help them not make too big an issue of problems.